It's A Success to Fail

Everyone fears failure. But our personal development depends on it. We learn the best when we fail - embrace our mistakes and learn from them. Look at the babies. How many times do they try to walk until they finally succeed? But no one is discouraging them, no one is telling them that their many tries are proving the fact they will never be walking. Everyone is so supportive of them. So, growing up in such a supportive environment, where on our life path we get so lost to beat ourselves up at face of every little mistake we make?

Recently, I have learned some very disturbing facts about the person I have known for so many years. I was astounded how far my idea of this person was from who he really is. I was sad and mad and what not. But when all the feelings settled I’ve realized I was mostly beating myself up for not being able to see the signs, for letting myself be deceived, for not reading the person’s personality better. However, I’ve fast realized that I was blaming myself for something I could not possibly know. See, we all are forming our opinion based on the facts we have and based on our experience with those facts. I could not possibly know. Nonetheless, I was mad at myself for not realizing who this person really is. I felt like failure. And mostly because I did not know if I would be able to let go and be open to have someone in my life again who I will be able to trust absolutely.

Then, I’ve realized – I cannot live my life frighten of everyone and everything. I was not the only person who has been deceived into believing something that is not true. I should learn from this and move on with my life. I ought to let go and forgive first, myself and then the person who hurt me. And at this realization I surprised myself how instantly I felt better. After all, I thought, this person has been one of my greatest teachers. I’ve read somewhere that we should be especially thankful to those who hurt us the most because they are our life’s greatest teachers. They rock our boats so mercilessly that we cannot do anything else but pay attention to what’s happening. We have to stop and think what we have to change so it doesn’t happen again. We have to learn.

But at the end of the day, I always say if we are healthy, safe and sound, if all our friends and family are healthy we should not be negative about our life situation. If everything above is in order we can concentrate on learning from our life flaws and making our life better. And let me tell you something, if you often come to obstacles and failures, you should know that you’re going through challenging phase in your life and you should embrace it.

I personally applaud you and wish you to learn as much as you can in that process. And remember,

EVERY FAILURE IS JUST SUCCESS IN DISGUISE.

P.S. The book I’m currently reading “Ask and it is given” helped me tremendously in getting my positivity back, especially part with its 22 processes. Check it out.