Treat yourself the way you want to be treated, rely on yourself just as you would to rely on your partner. When you manage to do that, you’ll be able to offer your love to others.
When we don’t love ourselves, we often don’t understand ourselves and we tend to self-criticize. We are afraid of loneliness and in order to avoid being alone, we enter relationship for the wrong reasons or get stuck in the wrong relationship. When we don’t love ourselves, we see our love relationships as the beginning and ending of everything, especially our own happiness, even life itself, and we are ready to sacrifice ourselves and our needs for others. When we break up, especially if we feel rejected by our exwe don't love ourselves. So, how to fill up our love well with love for ourselves?
Forgive everyone, including yourself, and be gentle, kind and patient with yourselfForgiveness is the key to our love doors. Forgiving means recognizing the lesson, rather than someone’s guilt and responsibility. We give the right to others and to ourselves to be human, imperfect, and despite everything valuable and important. We learn on both our own and others' mistakes without anger, without bitterness, without any desire to punish other person with (at least) the same level of pain we have felt ourselves.
Become aware and stop self-criticizing
When you react to your own imperfections, or mistakes, by mercilessly criticizing yourself, you are reviving the lessons you’ve learned in your childhood. By repeating the message we have learned from our parents or those who have raised us we continue with the story that keeps us trapped in our inner world filled with no love. Change the tape with criticizing, demeaning and accusatory voice that is going round and round in your head. Turn on the voice of your best friend, you can become one to yourself, and say: "I understand you, that may not have been the smartest thing you’ve ever done, but it can happen to anyone." Support yourself, give comfort to yourself, and say to yourself that everything will be fine. Learn from mistakes and do not repeat them.
Treat yourself the way you would treat the person you love
Do you want to take care of that person and serve her the best meals, make her happy with small things, surprise her and lift her spirits when she’s sad? Why not treat yourself that way!? And something else is also important: accept yourself in the moments when you hate everything and everyone, when you are angry, sad or in a bad mood as you would accept yourself when you’re calm and positive. It is fine. You cannot and will not always feel great. This way you will integrate parts of yourself instead of constantly rejecting yourself.
When we don’t love ourselves, we often don’t understand ourselves and we tend to self-criticize. We are afraid of loneliness and in order to avoid being alone, we enter relationship for the wrong reasons or get stuck in the wrong relationship. When we don’t love ourselves, we see our love relationships as the beginning and ending of everything, especially our own happiness, even life itself, and we are ready to sacrifice ourselves and our needs for others. When we break up, especially if we feel rejected by our exwe don't love ourselves. So, how to fill up our love well with love for ourselves?
Forgive everyone, including yourself, and be gentle, kind and patient with yourselfForgiveness is the key to our love doors. Forgiving means recognizing the lesson, rather than someone’s guilt and responsibility. We give the right to others and to ourselves to be human, imperfect, and despite everything valuable and important. We learn on both our own and others' mistakes without anger, without bitterness, without any desire to punish other person with (at least) the same level of pain we have felt ourselves.
Become aware and stop self-criticizing
When you react to your own imperfections, or mistakes, by mercilessly criticizing yourself, you are reviving the lessons you’ve learned in your childhood. By repeating the message we have learned from our parents or those who have raised us we continue with the story that keeps us trapped in our inner world filled with no love. Change the tape with criticizing, demeaning and accusatory voice that is going round and round in your head. Turn on the voice of your best friend, you can become one to yourself, and say: "I understand you, that may not have been the smartest thing you’ve ever done, but it can happen to anyone." Support yourself, give comfort to yourself, and say to yourself that everything will be fine. Learn from mistakes and do not repeat them.
Treat yourself the way you would treat the person you love
Do you want to take care of that person and serve her the best meals, make her happy with small things, surprise her and lift her spirits when she’s sad? Why not treat yourself that way!? And something else is also important: accept yourself in the moments when you hate everything and everyone, when you are angry, sad or in a bad mood as you would accept yourself when you’re calm and positive. It is fine. You cannot and will not always feel great. This way you will integrate parts of yourself instead of constantly rejecting yourself.
Regular meditation can make you more relaxed
Your mind is loaded with approximately 90,000 thoughts per day, many of which depressing and warring, so it is as important to clear your mind as it is to clean your body. Regular 20-minutes meditation, which calms the mind letting thoughts come and go with the repetition of mantras or word “om”, will provide your mind with much needed break from the constant activity.
Your mind is loaded with approximately 90,000 thoughts per day, many of which depressing and warring, so it is as important to clear your mind as it is to clean your body. Regular 20-minutes meditation, which calms the mind letting thoughts come and go with the repetition of mantras or word “om”, will provide your mind with much needed break from the constant activity.
Nurture encouraging thoughts and use affirmations
When the task is to fall in love with yourself and continue to love yourself, affirmations should reflect that goal. Simple, positive and clear, short sentences will be a sign to your ego that your heart and soul have taken control. "I love and accept myself the way I am" is a simple affirmation that will soon become true. Three or four such statements which reflect the things you consider important to really feel loved and accepted, will be enough. Repeat them for at least 3 weeks, each morning and evening, with care and honesty, and really mean what you’re saying. One day you'll realize that those affirmations really work.
Fall in love with yourself, completely, sincerely, unconditionally and without any delays
Can you recall the last time you were in love? Your heart was racing, you felt like the wind was rushing into your lungs, your eyes were bright and everyone noticed how fresh you look. That was such a wonderful feeling, wasn't it? The same happens with loving yourself, except you will never leave. Once you fall in love with yourself, love is with you and within you for the rest of your life.
When the task is to fall in love with yourself and continue to love yourself, affirmations should reflect that goal. Simple, positive and clear, short sentences will be a sign to your ego that your heart and soul have taken control. "I love and accept myself the way I am" is a simple affirmation that will soon become true. Three or four such statements which reflect the things you consider important to really feel loved and accepted, will be enough. Repeat them for at least 3 weeks, each morning and evening, with care and honesty, and really mean what you’re saying. One day you'll realize that those affirmations really work.
Fall in love with yourself, completely, sincerely, unconditionally and without any delays
Can you recall the last time you were in love? Your heart was racing, you felt like the wind was rushing into your lungs, your eyes were bright and everyone noticed how fresh you look. That was such a wonderful feeling, wasn't it? The same happens with loving yourself, except you will never leave. Once you fall in love with yourself, love is with you and within you for the rest of your life.
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